History & Staff

We have years of experience caring for families, from all walks of life. Each family comes to us because they know we are leaders in our profession, dedicated to excellence in service, and have the highest integrity.

For over half a century we have been Celebrating Life for your Family and Our Friends and we appreciate the trust you have placed upon us.

Thank you for visiting our Butler Funeral Home website. We sincerely hope you will tour our site and you will find information that will be of benefit to you. We realize that most people are not familiar with making funeral arrangements, so we have developed this site to provide our families and friends with the information they will need to answer questions about funeral services.

Our History

Our History

The Butler Funeral Home has been in Bolivar, serving the families of Polk and the surrounding counties since 1958. Formerly the White & Erwin and Erwin & Blue Funeral Home, Paul D. Butler and Mary Lou Butler opened their doors in August 1958. Joining the business in 1969 was their son R. Stephen Butler and later by Stephen's wife Jarolyn, in 1989. Mary Lou Butler passed away Nov. 6, 1988 & Paul D. Butler passed away on June 30, 2007.

We are just as committed in showing you that Butler Funeral Home is a name you can trust in the future as we have for the past 54 years. 
In Memory of R. Stephen Butler, 1947 - 2017

In Memory of R. Stephen Butler, 1947 - 2017

R. Stephen Butler lived in Bolivar all of his life. A 1965 graduate of Bolivar High School, he attended Southwest Baptist University for 3 years, then enrolled in Dallas Institute Of Mortuary Science and Gupton-Jones graduating with a degree of Funeral Services Practitioners in Mortuary Science in 1969.After returning to Bolivar he started his apprenticeship under his Dad, Paul D. Butler and his Mother, Mary Lou Butler. 

He obtained his Embalmers and Funeral Directors License from the state of Missouri in 1969. In 1968, Stephen married Jarolyn Stanfill in Caruthersville, MO. Stephen was a life member of Optimist International, a member of a the First Christian Church of Bolivar, Bolivar Area Chamber Of Commerce, Past District Nine Director of Missouri Funeral Directors And Embalmers Association and The National Funeral Directors Association. Stephen dedicated his life to Funeral Service by helping those families they serve as if they were his own family.

                                                         Our Valued Staff

  • Jarolyn Butler

    Jarolyn Butler, CEO/Funeral Director/Preneed Agent

    Jarolyn was born in Caruthersville, MO and graduated from Braggadocio High School in
    1965. She attended college at Southern Baptist College in Walnut Ridge, AR, then
    transferred to Southwest Baptist University in 1967. She met Stephen Butler at SBU and
    was married in 1968. She is a member of the First Christian Church in Bolivar and has
    served as a coordinator in various organizations such as The American Cancer Society, The
    American Heart Association. She has also been a member and officer in the Beta Sigma Phi
    Sorority in Bolivar.

    Jarolyn's business career began while Stephen was attending Mortuary School in Dallas, TX
    at the Park City Bank in Highland Park then retiring after 20 years with Commerce Bank of
    Bolivar, MO.

    Jarolyn became a Licensed Funeral Director in 1989 and assists her husband Stephen in
    the daily operation of the funeral home. Jarolyn feels the importance of serving our families
    as a funeral director with the compassion and dedication that they deserve
    In her spare time, Jarolyn and her husband, Stephen, like to travel on various cruises, going to many different shopping destinations,and spending time together.

  • Kyle Lancaster

    Kyle Lancaster, Manager/Funeral Director/Embalmer

    Kyle was born in Fort Scott, KS and graduated from Fort Scott High School. He attended Kansas State University, earning his Bachelor of Science in Sociology/Criminology. He then received his Associate of Applied Science in Mortuary Science from Kansas City Kansas Community College. Kyle is an active member of the local Rotary Club. He currently serves as Vice President of the Board of Education for Bolivar R - I Schools, and is a member of the board of directors for the Bolivar Educational Advancement Foundation. Kyle and his wife, Sarah met while they both were attending mortuary school. Sarah, also a licensed funeral director and embalmer, stays home to raise their daughters, Olive and Daly.

  • Justin Mather

    Justin Mather, Funeral Director/Embalmer

    Justin was born in Tulsa, Oklahoma but was raised in Lebanon, Missouri. He is a graduate of Lebanon High School and continued his education at Southwest Baptist University where he graduated in 2014. Justin then attended Dallas Institute of Funeral Service and graduated with honors in 2016. After he was finished in Dallas, he started working for Holman-Howe Funeral Homes in Hartville, Missouri. He joined the Butler team in August of 2020.

  • Melissa Britton

    Melissa Britton, Office Manager/Butler House Director

    Melissa Britton was born and raised in Springfield, Missouri. She graduated from Hillcrest Highschool, and continued her education at Southwest Baptist University, then to ITT Technical Institute, where she earned a degree in Criminal Justice, and is certified as an American Board of Medicolegal Death Investigators from Saint Louis University.
    Melissa has two children, Ashley and Matthew, with whom she was a stay at home mom for eighteen years.
    Melissa is currently the Coroner for Polk County, and joined Butler Funeral Home in March of 2017.

  • Janet Keith

    Janet Keith, Office Manager-Humansville Chapel

  • Clay  Meyer

    Clay Meyer, Funeral Assistance

    Clay was raised in Jefferson City, MO and graduated from Jefferson City High School. He attended Central Missouri State University for a period of time before entering into the United States Army, where after basic training, he served in Germany as a Military Policeman for three years. After an honorable discharge in May of 1990, Clay entered the Missouri Highway Patrol Law Enforcement Academy in July of 1990, Upon graduation he was assigned to the Troop D, Springfield, MO Headquarters. He patrolled in and around the Polk County area for the next 28 years before retiring in 2018 as a Master Sergeant.
    Clay is married to Renee Luebbering Meyer, who is also originally from Jefferson City, MO. Together, they have two children: Cole Meyer, from Kansas City, MO and Cristen (Meyer) Nelsen, who is married to Phillip Nelsen, of Bolivar, MO.

  • Noah  Cross

    Noah Cross

  • Kim  Smith

    Kim Smith, Funeral Assistance